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Tuesday, September 10, 2019

September 10, 2019

How to be self Motivated

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Self-Motivation 





Motivation is something that drives or causes you to act. Motivation is a motive-in-action. It is motive that propels you into action.
Your success is hidden in your motive and action and therefore these two must go hand in hand. If you have motive and no action then you do not have success. If you have action and no motive, you will not have success either.
Motivation helps you
1.    To dream, to conceive of an idea, a concept
2.    To believe in your heart
3.    To decide to do something to pursue your dreams and then realize your dreams
Motivation comes from your belief system – the faith you have in your inner values. That means you need always to believe in what you do in order to sustain your motivation.
Because of the repetition of your self-suggestions, you stay motivated and focused. But this is your own job. Others can inspire you; create a conducive environment which can be motivating. But they cannot motivate you; they can only inspire you to motivate yourself.
Motivation is so powerful that it can persuade, convince and propel you into action. Motivation is the driving force that can literally change your life.https://ranjith1977.blogspot.com/2019/08/Self-Esteem-principel.html
Your internal motivation (or attitude motivation) comes from your sense of achievement, attitude towards life, pride, beliefs, convictions, etc. your external motivation (incentive motivation) comes from outside sources such as money, societal approval, fame or fear or from incentives such as bonuses, commission, recognition, etc. Positive self-motivation is the catalyst that fosters persistence, determination and concentration of effort. It is the basis for all constructive human behavior and achievement, since everything an individual does, whether positive or negative, intentional or unintentional, is the result of motivation.
Winners In life are people who have developed intense, stimulating positive self-motivation. We all have some of it. The objective is to have a lot of it. We know that all super-achievers have a high degree of self-motivation.
15 ways to motivate yourself
1.    Programme your subconscious mind to win
2.    Have your smart goals written down
3.    Prioritize activities
4.    Cultivate the habit of written list-making
5.    Set out of your comfort zone and move yourself into the challenge zone
6.    Magnetize yourself to massive action
7.    Repeat your self-suggestions several times a day
8.    Practice creative visualization
9.    Model yourself after successful people
10.  Have a mentor and follow his advice
11.  Replay your past successes
12.  Learn the habit of ‘live in the present and do it now
13.  Read personal empowerment books regularly
14.  Attend personal empowerment training programmes as often as possible
The story of the “Four-Minute Mile” is illustrative of self-motivation. For several thousands of years, people held the belief that it was impossible for any human being to run a mile in less than four minutes. In ancient Egypt it was said that they released lions to chase after slaves in order to make them run a mile within four minutes but they failed. The best time ever recorded was 4 minutes and 06 seconds. Scientists, doctors and experts declared that there was no way a man could run a mile in less than four minutes. They said that if any person should try, “his heart would jump right out of his body”. But there was a man by the name of Roger Bannister who believed in himself and became self-motivated. He went through a systematic training programme and in 1954 he ran the mile in less than four minutes and later within a year, 37 other runners got motivated and achieved what was believed, for a long time, to be impossible.

Tuesday, August 20, 2019

August 20, 2019

Self-Esteem Building Principle


Self-Esteem-building Principle
Self-Esteem-building Principle,how to build self Esteem
Self -Esteem
Self-esteem means liking yourself and believing that you deserve the good things as much as anyone else does. Self-esteem is the way you think and feel about yourselves and not what anyone else will say, judge or comment about you. It is a very personal equation. Each person knows his own self-worth and others are able to perceive the level of your self-esteem. Self-esteem is feeling good within. Your self-esteem depends upon your self-image. Self-esteem increases your positive attitude and enhances your performance. It improves your relationship at home and at work. A high self-esteem is the first step in reshaping your destiny.
Your self-esteem evolves and changes with time. Yesterday’s beliefs and actions have resulted in the self-esteem you have today. Likewise what you believe, decide, and do today will shape your self-esteem of tomorrow. Boost your confidence and conviction to change the level of your self-esteem. Confidence builds conviction and conviction further reinforces confidence. Both contribute to greater feeling of your personal worth, your self-esteem. There are three sources of your self-esteem, namely;
1.    The society you live in
2.    The influence of other people
3.    Your internal conceptualization i.e. how you react to your own performance and results.
High self-esteem leads you:
1.    To believe in your own self which is transparent to your mind and to others so that you can soar like the eagles to great heights of success
2.    To have self-respect and self-confidence in achievement
3.    To be concrete in your vision for yourself and the image you want to project
4.    To adapt to changing circumstances like moving into different social circles and working groups with pleasure rather than trepidation
5.    To limit the impact of failures by accepting them as learning experiences
Growth in self-esteem becomes effective when you recognize:
1.    You must start NOW
2.    Your skills are intact and your past successes speak for you too
3.    You won’t submit to emotional blackmail
4.    You and you alone create your own circumstances
5.    You believe in your commitment to win
6.    You believe you are the master of your own destiny
High self-esteem results in specific goals, clear direction, meaningful relationships, lot of self-confidence, high personal productivity, accepting responsibilities, high energy level, disciplined and forgiving, optimistic and risk-taking. Therefore high self-esteem is an essential requisite for success.
Low self-esteem results in no goals, no direction, relationship failure, lack of self-confidence, low personal productivity, avoidance responsibilities, low energy level, undisciplined and unproductive behavior – fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, etc, pessimism and risk-avoiding.
The story is told of a beggar who went on to become a business executive. He used to sit at the railway station with a bowl full of pencils. A business executive passed by, dropped a coin in the bowl and got into the train. But then something came to his mind and he got down from the train and went back to the beggar. He took a bunch of pencils and paid for them saying: “They are priced right. After all you are a business man and so I am.” Then he got back to the train. The words of the business executive: “you are a businessman,” continued to echo in the beggar’s ears. And he decided to do something constructive with his life. The beggar’s self-esteem went up. He abandoned begging and started to have stationary items. He worked hard and climbed the ladder of success to become a business executive. This is the magic of high self-esteem. After a few years, the business executive and the ex-beggar met in a party. The ex-beggar recognized the executive, went up to him and narrated how his encouraging words had changed his life. He thanked him saying: “You were the first person in my life who gave me back my dignity. I am what I am today because your words enhanced my self-esteem. I worked hard and became a business executive myself”.