Self-Esteem-building Principle
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| Self -Esteem |
Self-esteem means liking
yourself and believing that you deserve the good things as much as anyone else
does. Self-esteem is the way you think and feel about yourselves and not what
anyone else will say, judge or comment about you. It is a very personal
equation. Each person knows his own self-worth and others are able to perceive
the level of your self-esteem. Self-esteem is feeling good within. Your
self-esteem depends upon your self-image. Self-esteem increases your positive
attitude and enhances your performance. It improves your relationship at home
and at work. A high self-esteem is the first step in reshaping your destiny.
Your self-esteem evolves and
changes with time. Yesterday’s beliefs and actions have resulted in the
self-esteem you have today. Likewise what you believe, decide, and do today
will shape your self-esteem of tomorrow. Boost your confidence and conviction
to change the level of your self-esteem. Confidence builds conviction and
conviction further reinforces confidence. Both contribute to greater feeling of
your personal worth, your self-esteem. There are three sources of your self-esteem, namely;
1.
The
society you live in
2.
The
influence of other people
3.
Your
internal conceptualization i.e. how you react to your own performance and
results.
High self-esteem leads you:
1.
To
believe in your own self which is transparent to your mind and to others so
that you can soar like the eagles to great heights of success
2.
To
have self-respect and self-confidence in achievement
3.
To
be concrete in your vision for yourself and the image you want to project
4.
To
adapt to changing circumstances like moving into different social circles and
working groups with pleasure rather than trepidation
5.
To
limit the impact of failures by accepting them as learning experiences
Growth in self-esteem becomes
effective when you recognize:
1.
You
must start NOW
2.
Your
skills are intact and your past successes speak for you too
3.
You
won’t submit to emotional blackmail
4.
You
and you alone create your own circumstances
5.
You
believe in your commitment to win
6.
You
believe you are the master of your own destiny
High self-esteem results in specific goals, clear
direction, meaningful relationships, lot of self-confidence, high personal
productivity, accepting responsibilities, high energy level, disciplined and
forgiving, optimistic and risk-taking. Therefore high self-esteem is an
essential requisite for success.
Low self-esteem results in no goals, no direction,
relationship failure, lack of self-confidence, low personal productivity,
avoidance responsibilities, low energy level, undisciplined and unproductive
behavior – fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, etc, pessimism and risk-avoiding.
The story is told of a beggar who went on to become a business
executive. He used to sit at the railway station with a bowl full of
pencils. A business executive passed by, dropped a coin in the bowl and got
into the train. But then something came to his mind and he got down from the
train and went back to the beggar. He took a bunch of pencils and paid for them
saying: “They are priced right. After all you are a business man and so I am.”
Then he got back to the train. The words of the business executive: “you are a
businessman,” continued to echo in the beggar’s ears. And he decided to do
something constructive with his life. The beggar’s self-esteem went up. He
abandoned begging and started to have stationary items. He worked hard and
climbed the ladder of success to become a business executive. This is the magic
of high self-esteem. After a few years, the business executive and the
ex-beggar met in a party. The ex-beggar recognized the executive, went up to
him and narrated how his encouraging words had changed his life. He thanked him
saying: “You were the first person in my life who gave me back my dignity. I am
what I am today because your words enhanced my self-esteem. I worked hard and
became a business executive myself”.
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